24 Things I’ve Learned Since Turning 24
It’s an age wedged in the middle that no one really pays much attention to. There’s 23, the age when you try desperately to get on your feet, like your job, settle into your apartment and have a panic attack once a week. And then there’s 25, when you’re a quarter of a century (already?!).
Here are 24 things I’ve learned since turning 24:
1. Always Listen to Your Intuition.
When you get that gut feeling that something is right or wrong, don’t ignore it. You often know the answer before you even realize it.
2. Skincare First, Makeup Second.
Makeup is great for covering up and enhancing, but a good base means you need less makeup anyway. Take your makeup off every night, and always moisturize!
For a list of my favorite natural skincare products, read here.
3. Be Curious About Everything.
When I assume I know things, I close myself off to opportunities. Instead, ask deep and meaningful questions and wander off by yourself every now and there (sorry for doing this to my parents from a young age and giving them anxiety attacks).
4. Recharge, Refocus, Repeat.
I am my priority. This realization flipped a switch in me, and I decided that my priority should be on me and to allow myself to be the person I’ve always wanted to be. Now I don’t feel obligated to go out with friends every time they ask, and my attention to school is to make sure I feel confident in my education, not because of the pressure from parents. By learning this, I’ve been able to dedicate my time towards things like expanding my ever-growing library, putting extra effort into my writing and dedicating time to learn about the world around me. Just because I am my own top priority doesn't mean I neglect my other responsibilities, I just make sure that I am confident and comfortable in myself and my actions, so my secondary priorities fall into place.
5. Keep Reading.
Books, journals, magazines,essays, and basically anything I can get my hands on. It is one of the most important things you can do to further your intelligence and your understanding of life.
6. There Is More Than One Way To Do Something.
As the saying goes, “ All roads lead to Rome.” If what you’ve been doing doesn’t seem to be working, think of five different ways you could approach the situation. Then try them all and see what works.
7. Obsessing Over Healthy Food Is Not Healthy.
I started getting interested in health and wellness at a very young age. I went through a period of being completely obsessed with how healthy the food I was eating was which is now classified as a type of eating disorder, and it ain’t no joke.
8. I Don’t Owe Anyone An Explanation.
If someone does not understand the reasoning behind my actions, I do not have to justify them.My business is mine. Your business is yours alone.
9. Saying No.
Boundaries are crucial. Younger me would strive to always please others first rather to listen to my own needs. So unhealthy in many ways, I don’t even know where to start. Save yourself the trouble and just say no if that’s what you want.
10. Being Sad Is Okay.
Don’t beat yourself up for having feelings. The solution to most problems anyways is a hot shower and a good cry. It’s okay to cry in the bathroom at work when everyone and everything is frustrating. Hiding under your desk is also acceptable. Take it from someone who has cried multiple times at their desk.
11. Letting Go.
Expectations have a way of keeping us stuck because they lead us to fear certain outcomes. There are no guarantees in life, and there’s nothing we can really do to get the outcomes we desire when dealing with others. When our expectations or needs aren’t met, we need to respond rationally and appropriately. Sometimes this means setting respectful boundaries; other times, it means letting go.
12. The Power of Gratitude.
Gratitude is our emotion that relates to our ability to feel and express thankfulness and appreciation. Traditionally, the study of this emotion has been relegated to the fields of theology and philosophy. In 2007, Robert Emmons began researching gratitude through a psychological lens. He found that expressing gratitude improves mental, physical and relational well-being. Being grateful also impacts the overall experience of happiness, and these effects tend to be long-lasting.
13. Quality Over Quantity.
Settling where? Settling for who? Settling why? Quantity will never make me happy .It doesn’t matter how much of something I have; what matters is the quality of what I have. Ask yourself: Will it last? Is it substantial? Does it fill the void that it intends to?
14. How To Not Be Such A Shitty Human Being.
Let’s be honest, there are a lot of things that I have done in the past I’m not proud of. Taking responsibility for my wrongdoings without tearing myself down has been an uphill battle to say the least. But news flash: no one is perfect. We are all wrong from time to time, and instead of wallowing in a permanent state of self pity, give yourself time to reflect critically and then move forward.
15. The Power of Positivity.
Changing the mental images I allow to enter my mind is a daily task. How we see ourselves and our surroundings make a huge difference to our overall mindset and thinking. Instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.
16. Everybody I Meet Knows Something That I Don’t.
If you have trouble making conversation with strangers like I do, remember that everyone has a story to tell. Everyone has something they can teach you, but it’s your job to try and figure out what it is.
17. Gotta Stay Creative.
Osho says “Creativity is the greatest act of rebellion” because it demands courage, imagination, and original thinking. The same goes with thinking outside the box. After all, we wouldn’t even be here if Adam and Eve hadn’t gotten curious and eaten the apple anyway.
18. Finding My Calling Takes Time.
I’m still searching so don’t expect any miracle tips from me. But I’ve come to terms about the amount of time it is taking me to realize how I am bringing love and light to the world. After all, life is a journey and I am there for the ride, not the destination.
Feeling stuck? Read “20 Ways to Find your Calling” according to Forbes .
19. Embrace The Weirdness.
I am so freaking weird and yet people still want to be my friend (for the most part). Authenticity is always in style, so don’t hold back the quirky things that make you you.
20. People Change, Things Change, Life Changes and That’s Okay.
Learning to share the same level of forgiveness with others that I would expect for myself has been a life changing mindset. Constant worrying, negative thinking, and always expecting the worst takes a toll on our emotional and physical health.
21. Don’t Ask, Don’t Get.
In other words, ask and I’ll receive. If I want something, only I have the power to go out and get it. I’ve also learned that it’s okay to ask for help, in fact, it’s essential. I will not be seen as incapable for needing assistance with something. I am not expected to know everything, nor am I expected to be able to do everything on your own.
22. I Am Not Responsible for the Actions of Other Adults Around Me.
I do not allow others to make you feel responsible for their choices. No matter how much influence they may say you have on them, their decision was theirs alone to make.
23. I Am Stronger Than I Think.
I am slowly learning that all of the time I have spent crying does not make me weak. Getting my heart broken by boys who do not deserve me does not make me weak. Caring too much and being too nice and getting too invested does not make me weak.I am slowly learning that it takes strength to survive a broken heart. Or losing a best friend. Or the death of a family member. It takes strength to get out of bed each morning when the universe feels like a scary, unsafe place. It takes strength to keep going when all you want to do is stop, surrender, collapse.
Read the whole “I Am Learning” article here.
24. Never Stop Learning.
Everyday's a chance to push yourself to greater heights.